While working through a challenging situation today I typed these words to a friend:
"I almost hate to ask, but how much grace is enough . . . .?"
Deep down my heart knew the answer before the letters rolled off my fingertips and onto the screen. I hit the "send" button regardless and spent the day facing my dilemma.
In the midst of answering the questions for myself I also came to the conclusion that "Tolerance" is not "Grace." Being tolerant is not the same as being forgiving. Ouch! Somehow I had convinced myself that being compliant and tolerant while disguising my exasperation was somehow the same as being forgiving. It's not.
Forgiveness resides in the disposition of our hearts. Tolerance is a state of mind and a test of forbearance and how long we can refrain from giving into the pressure. It's an exercise in resisting our urge to react. Forgiveness steps beyond tolerance and cleanses both heart and mind. Tolerance hides and disguises. Forgiveness and Grace erase.
So how much grace is enough . . . when should I withdraw grace and forgiveness? Christ seems to answer the question with the common phrase "What goes around comes around."
"For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you, but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses." ~ Jesus, Matthew 6:14-15
Then Peter came up and said to him, "Lord, how often will my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? As many as seven times?" Jesus said to him, "I do not say to you seven times, but seventy times seven." ~ Jesus, Matthew 18:21-22 ~ followed by a great parable on forgiveness.
"And whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone, so that your Father also who is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses." ~ Jesus, Mark 11:25
"Judge not, and you will not be judged; condemn not, and you will not be condemned; forgive, and you will be forgiven; give, and it will be given to you. Good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, will be put into your lap. For with the measure you use it will be measured back to you." ~ Jesus, Luke 6:37-38
I get it. If I want to more than merely tolerated by God, and my Saviour, then I need to be endlessly gracious and forgiving beyond measure . . . He and I both know I need my share of it.


